Eva Nordlander Coaching

Find your way back to your most significant relationship, where you felt safe, seen & loved.

Sometimes we experience so much pain that we ask ourselves, were we ever really in love? And if so, where did our love go? Is there a way back to the deep connection and harmony we once had?
The good news is Yes! It only takes one person to change the trajectory of your relationship. Even if you feel frustrated, sad and deeply lonely, it’s not over. With the right guidance, you can find unexpected insights and new possibilities. That’s how powerful you are.

Transform your relationship from frustration, sadness
and isolation, into one of
love, kindness and secure connection.

Hi, I’m Eva. I am a certified professional and relationship coach. Nothing provides a greater sense of meaning, happiness and wellbeing than the relationship with our beloved. When we experience conflicts, sadness and disconnection it can feel deeply lonely and devastating. I’m here to help you find a way back to your loved one, belonging and safety again. 

The conversations that will help us create connection again are;

  • Identify your current story that is keeping you stuck in disconnection.

  • Understanding the underlying emotional needs behind someones blame and angry comments.

  • Turning conflicts that have kept you apart into opportunities for connection.

  • Helping you identify and break old patterns causing you to feel alone and distant.

  • How to lean in and be there for each other when one of you is triggered and upset.

  • Helping you realise that kindness and vulnerability is your greatest allies in all relationships.

True connection has the power to repair, transform and heal us all.

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A secure connection provides a sense of safety and strength that is rare to find anywhere else.

Yet, when we experience a love connection it triggers all sorts of strange behavior, often actions that will destroy it.

Love & Relationships Questions

Were they the One?

It’s not easy to find that special one. Many of us have worked really hard to find him/her. We have dated several potentials, experience happy moments and heart-breaks. Until one day we decide, this is the one. It doesn’t happen overnight. There are a few key moments that bring us to the place, when we know this is the one whom I want to spend the rest of my life with. 

So, how is it then that the person we so carefully selected, the person that lit our heart brighter than anyone before. The one we felt seen, heard and loved by doesn’t make us feel like the one anymore?

We had a few years of bliss. Then slowly we start to experience a gap. We don’t feel connected anymore. Feeling alone in the relationship has become normal. The deep connection and partnership that once was so strong, seems to be a long lost memory. Misunderstanding, disconnection and resentment is slowly tearing you apart.

Where did our love go?

As human beings, we are all born with a strong need for emotional connection. A sense of belonging to a well-chosen person, our partner who offer a reliable source of connection, care and unconditional love. When these needs are met, we experience strong feelings of comfort and well-being throughout our body. Life as a whole feels deeply satisfying.

When the opposite occurs we experience distress, disconnection and a sense of hopelessness. One of our strongest needs as human beings is that we matter to our partner. That they keep us in mind when making decisions. When we feel that the other person doesn’t care about our needs, preferences or wellbeing, that we don’t matter to them anymore, it can be devastating.

When indifference, neglect and unkind language has become the norm in the relationship, it has the power to tear it apart. So much that you might have a hard time remembering ever being in love with your partner in the first place.

Is there a way back?

All relationship experience connection, disconnection and reconnection. However many couples gets stuck in disconnection a place where critique, indifference and unkindness is the main ingredient. You cannot build connection from that place, it keeps you stuck in isolation and frustration. 

I’ve helped many couples re-enter into a heartfelt connection. Where they have gone from disconnection to reconnection. From knee-jerk reactions to being able to respond with genuine love and care. Instead of slamming the door in our partners face (literally & figuratively) we become vulnerable and open to each others heart again. 

There is no non-stop flight from disconnection to reconnection. Especially if you’ve been stuck for a while. For some of us it might seem easier to travel to the moon than to reconnect with our partner. The good news is, it only takes one person to change the trajectory of the relationship and I am here to guide you every step of the way.

Our number-one goal, ahead of financial success is…

A study shows that a satisfying love relationship is the number-one goal, ahead of financial success and satisfying careers in our Western societies. We are determined to find the perfect partner to share our lives with. Yet, over 50% of first marriages end in divorce. Second marriages fail even more, at 65%.

We train and educate ourselves in so many areas. We buy books and take classes on everything from fly-fishing, script writing to making our own sashimi. Yet the area that means the most to us, the one that provides more joy and wellbeing than all our hobbies combined, we spend little or no time learning about.

We also now know that a loving relationship literally acts as a shield against pain, stress and the difficulties of being a human. We truly need each other to feel emotionally safe in the world. Still, few of us invest time to read a book, attend a seminar or schedule an appointment with a relationship expert until we are on the edge of loosing the relationship that means the most to us.

I believe that our connection with our beloved provide a greater sense of meaning
and happiness than any other human experience

Hi, I’m Eva.

A certified professional & relationship coach, a romantic at heart, a love optimist, dedicated to helping you create kind, alive and real connection in your key relationships one honest conversation at a time.

 

“The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives” - Esther Perel

A Little About Me

I am a certified professional coach at International Coach Federation, ICF and a certified couples & relationship coach through Humanova, Stockholm. I’ve been providing coaching services since 2012, the kind that challenge your current beliefs, stories and habits in order to create the life and relationships you long for. I live and work out of Stockholm but for nearly 25 years I lived in the US, so I’m equally comfortable coaching in English or Swedish.

Before I became relationship coach I worked as an executive art director in New York, creating advertising campaigns for large international corporations like, L’Oreal, Lancome, Maybeline and Clinique. I was your typical type A, overachiever, married to my job, driven by perfection and adrenaline. When it became evident that the things (sexy job, money, being super busy) I though would make me happy didn’t, I could no longer ignore the voice in my heart asking “isn’t there something more meaningful you could do with your life?”

I went back to school. A study in getting to know me and what brought joy to my life. I discovered that I felt most alive being of service to people. I’ve always had an passion for romantic relationships, combining the two has now become my purpose, helping people create real connection in their love relationships. I don’t hold a traditional degree in psychology, instead I’ve chosen to study with world-renowned new thought leaders, that each in their own way are changing the way we view the world.

A few of the teachers I’ve had the great fortune studied for;

  • Iyanla Vanzant, a New York best-selling author, lawyer, teacher, professional coach and Oprah Winfreys relationship expert. She is the founder of Inner Visions Institute, a school designed to support participants in having a deeper experience of themselves in order to understand their life’s experiences. My understanding of life changed profoundly at Inner Visions. I discovered my inner voice and aligned my choices with my own beliefs and vision.

  • Michael Bernard Beckwith, a new thought minister, author and founder of the Agape International Spiritual Center & University of Transformational Studies & Leadership. I attended his weekly teachings for three years during which time I also took individual classes like, ancient wisdom teachings, emerging sciences, physics of prayer, life visioning and meditation just to name a few. The curriculum is deliberately constructed to be high voltage and energetic so that one’s personal, interpersonal and old paradigms are shattered, leaving the learner fully open to exceptional insights, brilliant revelations, inspired wisdom and intuitive knowledge.

  • Dr Ron Hulnick and Dr Mary Hulnick, founders of University of Santa Monica. Teachers, authors and pioneers in the emerging field of spiritual psychology. I attended Soul-Centered Living. A 10-month certificate program in spiritual psychology.

  • Dr Robert Holden, psychologist, personal and professional coach, best-selling author, world-renowned speaker and one of the best relationships coaches of our times. I attended two of his certificate programs, Success Intelligence a guide to genuine success and happiness. And Loveability, knowing how to love and be loved.

  • Dr Sue Johnsson, a clinical psychologist, couples therapist and author. She is known for her work in the field of psychology on bonding, attachment and adult romantic relationships. I’ve attended her certificate course on emotionally focused therapy and attachment-based interventions for couples in crisis.

  • Coachutbildningen, Sweden. ICF Professional Coach education and Training Program (ACC). An advanced ICF-accredited program for individuals who work professionally as coaches or use a coaching approach in their work.

  • Humanova, Stockholm. Certified couple and relationship coach. An in-depth study of attachment theory, imago therapy and empathic communication and its importance for understanding how we can relate and communicate better in romantic relationships.

My life’s work is helping people create kind, alive and real connection with your loved one. I will support and guide you to have the difficult conversations, the ones that we are afraid of having but that will ultimately pull you closer, to yourself and each other. Our hearts long for real connection and its through vulnerability we reach each another, one honest conversation at a time.

Is it time to part ways?
Or are you ready to take action and invest in your relationship before it's too late?

Time does not heal relationships in pain and distress, finding courage to talk about what has come between you does.

I’m a native Swede who lived in the US for 25 years, therefore I am equally comfortable coaching in English and Swedish.
I now live and work out of Stockholm, Sweden.

I am currently not taking on new clients until fall, 2023.

Individual Coaching
60 min / 1200 Sek
150 US dollars

Sometimes we’re not able to bring our partner to couples coaching. Sometimes we have to start the process by ourselves. I’ve come to realise that is a great place to start. You have the power to change the trajectory of your relationship. That’s how powerful you are. Are you ready transform and save your relationship?

We can meet in person or online. 

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Couples Coaching
90 min / 2400 Sek
270 US dollars

In most relationships there is one partner who has a stronger need to seek help. Usually they’ve made the appointment. I’m here for both of you. You need a coach that can create a safe space where both feel seen and heard in order for true understanding, compassion and reconnection to occur.

Couples coaching in person only.

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It only takes one person to change the trajectory of your relationship and ultimately your life. That’s how powerful you are.

Contact Me

Eva Nordlander

Certified Life & Relationship Coach

If you want to find out more about my services, simply email me and I will get back to you within 24 hours. I look forward hearing from you.

(Not taking new clients until Fall 2023)

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